stay positive

You all know the saying that when life hands you a lemon, turn it into a lemonade. Well, it is easier said than done. How about the negative situations, behaviors, thoughts and experiences you face in your daily life? Do you turn them into positives or allow yourself to be immersed in the sea of negativity?

It is very easy and almost natural to be positive when everything in your life is good. And what do I mean when your life is good? You’re meeting your goals, your wallet is growing fatter every new day, you are full of health and surrounded by caring loved ones.

Conversely, being positive in the face of negativity is one hell of a mountain to climb. How are you expected to be positive when you have a sick spouse in the hospital with a skyrocketing hospital bill? Still, how are you expected to be positive when you are broke, hungry and cannot even afford three square meals in a day? It actually becomes even more difficult to tell a graduate to be positive about life when he or she has gone round in search of a job for months without success. There you are! Trying hard to make your business work but ends somehow just can’t meet. From the lazy and sly staff to poor sales and low profits negativity snaps the joy of life away from you.

So how are we expected to be positive when we are being hit left and right with negativity? From the negative clergyman to the negative conductor on the road, we also meet people who are outrightly negative and only serve to make us negative. Not at all. Actually, no one expects you to be positive or negative. It is none of their damn business it yours.

The world is full of negativity in equal measure as positivity and it’s upon us to make the choice on whether to dwell on the positive or negative. Let me not blame the world, you need to look at your own life and you will be surprised to notice the negatives on you. Have you noticed how you belch loudly? What about the large tummy that you don’t like looking at? Okay, you know you are quiet and reserved and you hate yourself for it.

When we constantly chose to focus on our negatives we actually register negative mental states in our subconscious minds. As such, anytime we are confronted with a strange situation or circumstance, the mind is already conditioned to point out the negatives before the positives. Have you ever realized how negative people complain about everything? If not the weather today is bad it will be the waiter was disrespectful. If not am bored today it will be the food today is tasteless.

Suffice it to say that being mentally positive can be actually hard to you who is accustomed to looking at a glass as half empty. However, with much practice, perseverance and patience, you could just be on your way to be the most positive person you have ever met.

For example, let us say you are accustomed to viewing news as always bad news. So every news hour you switch off the TV because you have the skewed notion that news is always bad. Well, maybe you will need to evaluate your perception and understanding of what constitutes a bad news? Besides, you could start watching sermons and your favorite music if at all you find them positive.

What about your negative views towards the current regime? Could you just change your negative mentality a little bit and start being a fair judge here. It is actually so negative to only point at the ills of an individual, institution or government without recognizing their achievements as well. For you to cultivate that positive mentality it is important to make the necessary step of recognizing the good in every opportunity, person or situation you deem bad.

So how should we handle negativity?

Just like learning any other virtue being positive is also a character that can be learned over time. Therefore, the only way out of negativity is to stay positive at all times. One reason is that you will never ever chase all the negative people from your life and neither will you avoid them in totality.

Somehow the people close to you could be negative. Rather than try to avoid them start appreciating the good in them.

Here are five tips I use to fight negativity

  1. I Accept Who I am

A long time ago as a teenager I would feel terrible about my muscle size and how short I was compared to my peers. However, I grew into a youth and realized I could just be as sizeable as any other person. This all began when I started accepting myself the way I am.

So do you feel a flaw in you could be making you uncomfortable? To be sincere with you, every single one of us has a flaw. What makes the difference is the fact that some have accepted who they are with their flaws and have chosen to move on to other pertinent issues in life. On the contrary, a person who focuses on his her flaws only magnifies and makes them even more pronounced in their mind.

Focusing on your flaws only serves to kill your self-esteem, kill your self-confidence and make you less productive in life. Clearly putting you in not a very good disposition to attract success in your life.

To be positive in life stop focusing on your flaws and focus on your strengths. Everyone has strengths. This explains why interviewers usually ask a prospective employee about their strengths because they know they have some.

  1. I Share My Positivity with Others

Basing on the Law of Cause and Effect it is highly encouraged to share out your positivity with others. This law also referred to as Karma states that whatever you send into the universe comes back. If you send out negativity you get back negativity. Conversely, if you send out positivity, positivity is what you will get.

I am made to understand that such laws never err. It just the same concept when the Bible talks about reaping what you sow. If you choose to sleep more today, you will sleep hungry tomorrow. No shortcuts! No magic! The same concept is clearly demonstrated by an echo sound. It only echoes what you say and nothing else.

And so how do I share out my positivity with others? I compliment them when they look good. I chat continuously in a Whatsapp group that is always dormant and silent. I notice the good things around me and admire them for what they are; the sparkling VX V8 speeding past me, the artistically designed bungalow across the street, the smartly dressed young man nearby. The list is endless.

Apart from just complimenting, I also share my positivity with others by encouraging those who feel life is over for them or life is unfair rather. This I do via this blog and the many individuals I happen to interact with.

You need to realize that by you encouraging others you make them have a positive outlook on life and subsequently you never remain the same but also change to be like them.

  1. I start My Day in a Positive Way Like Let’s Say Listening to My Favorite Music

Sometimes I may wake up confused and full of fearful thoughts. However, all that changes in an instant when I play my favorite music.

How you start your day counts a lot in how you are going to handle the negatives that will be thrown at you during the day.

Imagine yourself quarreling with your wife as the first thing when you wake up. The rest of the day won’t just flow. Your productive energy is already sapped through the quarrel and you will view every other encounter on negative glasses. Your subordinates at your place of work cud have it rough that day.

One other way I start my day positive is to start with a morning devotion where I study the word of God and pray. Here are some simple truths about a morning devotion using God’s word:

  • It builds your faith as a Christian
  • It heals your physical and emotional pain
  • It fights the enemies in your life including works of the devil
  • It builds your character
  • It brings  hope

There is no doubt about the positive power of good music and a morning devotion to your life.

  1. I Try as Much as I Possible to Live in the Present

Living in the present is one sure way of letting go every fear that creeps up on you from failures of the past and anxieties of the future. I live in the moments by taking a walk through nature and enjoy the cool breeze and the sound of moving wind. I also live in the moment by appreciating the things I have in life instead of worrying about what I do not have.

Sadly, at times a conversation from friends or a TV commercial could kill this disposition in you, such that you will be made to fill empty and a low achiever when TV commercials project a life of class and wealth that yours does not compare to.

Adding on to your negative state is when you start worrying about your future and thinking of the things you do not have and what you are supposed to achieve. Too many of us have stolen the joy out of our lives by worrying about our future. For instance, you will come across a young person worrying about the man r woman they will get married to, their health, their finances and many other things.

Well, this is not to say we should not live in the present but it is healthier, positive and less of an effort to live in the moment that constantly think about your future. You will be surprised to learn that some of the successes in your life happened randomly without even your panning.

  1. I Choose to be Open-Minded

By being open-minded means I am willing to consider new ideas. Whether I embrace them or not depends on my core values as a person and more so as a child of God.

However, sometimes being narrowly minded can be a big cause of negativity in our lives in the sense that we value more who we are and what we know to the point of refusing to acknowledge any new idea or information that is contrary to what we already know.

For instance, a Christian who firmly believes in the word of God and full of faith might get agitated when he or she meets an atheist who tells him or her there is no God.

However, if they were to acknowledge that not everyone is saved and not everyone believes in God but have different beliefs it could have made a hell lot of a difference and make them feel more positive than negative about the experience.

To be positive in life choose to be open-minded and accept that in your journey through life you will meet so many people who will oppose your absolute truth about life and yourself. If you are open minded you will approach such encounters with positivity rather than negativity.

Final Thoughts

What are you negative about?

  • Is it your current job
  • Sickness
  • Spouse
  • Child
  • Mother in law
  • Government
  • Yourself
  • Your lack of employment

The list is endless. Whatever situation that makes you feel negative train yourself to only see the positive in situations and other people and you will be on your way to being a positive person in life.

Take the lack of employment to be an opportunity for entrepreneurship in your life.

Wishing you a Happy and Positive 2018!

If there are any other ways you use to stay positive let me know in the comments section below.

 

 

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Two days ago while talking to a sales and marketing acquaintance, he lamented to me how reading culture had waned among the middle working class. Probably, the reason behind this could be the demand that comes with an office job. Besides, their reading culture may not have been developed properly during their tender ages.

Given his job of marketing and selling books that border on finance, business and self-help he was lost for words when a one female bank manager turned him off for coming to her office with a sales proposal rather than to seek banking services.

If not turned off, he is either met with queer remarks or empty promises that are meant to appease his eager to sell attitude.

There is a poor reading culture not only among the middle working class but across the divide in our society. Teens too abhor reading and only want to chat on social media. Reading has been made to appear tedious and only meant for the preparation of an exam.

Personally, reading and writing is part and parcel of my life. I find relish in reading content in both published books and blogs.

During school days, I would often be mocked and called a bookworm for reading the Bible, novels, online blogs and journals. At home, relatives would troll in and wonder how one hell of an avid reader I was.

Well, I developed a reading culture quite at an early age thanks to my great dad Boniface Kiniale Wasike. Every morning when I woke up, he would give me children stories to read out loud to him. Later on, he would give me newspapers to read after he read them through.

The rest as we always say is history. I picked momentum from such early age experiences and read every material I could find with zeal and interest that knows no bounds.

Young parents should seek to build a strong reading culture in their children while still young as reading will determine how far they will go in their lives.

So how do you develop a strong reading culture in your life? Read on and learn more.

  1. Join a Book Club

Have you ever found yourself yearning to eat something just because you saw your neighbor two seats away eating it? The effect is quite the same when it comes to reading. Once you join a book club, even if reading is not your cup of tea, the book club will gradually build in you the desire to read and be a commoner in their meetings and discussion forums.

If you know of none, you could team up with like-minded friends and begin your small book club. With consistency, you could grow your membership to a dozen and more.

  1. Have a Reading Goal

For beginners, you could start with reading one book every new month. Having a reading goal not only helps you build a strong reading culture but it will also be instrumental in making you grow gradually from reading one book every new month to reading three books in a month.

You could pick particular topics that interest you. This could be about wealth and personal finance, relationships, spirituality, history among others.

  1. Read Everywhere

Unlike in the past, the digital world is here with us. Gone are the days when you needed to visit a library in the city to access a novel or an interesting book to read. While you can still do this, the digital era we live in has made accessing books easier than ever before. For instance, I recently bought Robert Kiyosaki’s best seller Rich Dad Poor Dad on Amazon. Downloaded it to my Amazon Kindle account on my smartphone which allows me to read it from anywhere and everywhere.

  1. Switch Content When Frustrated

You just positioned yourself comfortably in your favorite seat to watch a movie with a title you found to be catchy. Ten minutes down the movie you find it to be flat and outright boring. Well, who said you cannot switch to another movie that is more interesting?

A book could also get frustrating or lose meaning to you along the way. No need to force it on yourself, you can always shift to a more interesting topic of your choice.

However, for you to build a strong reading culture, it is important to understand that discipline and consistency is key.

  1. Read to Learn

There is a wealth of information found in books if you would care enough to read them. There is a wide range of books that offer knowledge and solutions to the present day life challenges and problems.

For example, reading books on real estates and long-term investments will make you a brilliant investor. On the other hand, reading a book about sales and marketing will improve your marketing skills.

There are also books on personal development such as wealth creation, self-confidence and stress management among others.

  1. Create Time for Reading

Work, be it office work, field days or house chores can be demanding at times. Hence, there is the need for you to also create a specific time for reading books. It all depends on your schedule, this could be early in the morning when you wake up or late in the evening just before you retire to bed. Setting aside that 20 or 30 minutes to read a book could make a difference between reading and not reading your book at all.

In my case, I find the most convenient time to read a book is when am waiting for something or someone. I could be sitting in a bank queue waiting to be served. Rather than fantasize about everything, I would rather take out my smartphone and read five or ten pages of a book am reading about.

Reading books is great. This is because reading gives you the shortcut to learning about the lives, mistakes and ideas of other people that you would have otherwise learned from your own worst experiences or never learned at all. To build a strong reading culture, you should be prepared to fight off the distractions that come with social media and friends. Start with those books you find interesting to read and gradually graduate to other topics. Use the comfort of your smartphone or portable laptop to make easier your reading culture. There you go! You are now a dedicated reader.

 

 

 

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In one of the blog posts, I shared here, I listed a number of ways youths or the unemployed could beat the skyrocketing unemployment levels in Kenya.

Well, today I want to focus on one of the ways listed namely online jobs in which youths can use to overcome lack of jobs in Kenya.

“A good player they say plays where the ball is, but a great player moves where the ball will go next” Adapted from Be Inspired Before You Expire by Pepe Minambo

If the above quote is anything to go by, then you seriously need to consider launching an online business or going chest front into freelance writing and transcription services. This is because the internet is more vibrant, lively and social than ever before in the history of humanity.

Back in college, while still a third-year student, there was much hype and talk about online writing jobs. At the time, I did not pay so much attention to the whole story until when I visited a coursemate and found one of his roommates busy on his laptop.

On further inquiry, it dawned on me that the guy was actually writing a 500-word article worth $2 on iWriter. The laggard in me died that very moment.

With no standard desktop to launch my writing career, I borrowed a laptop from a close friend and got cracking. However, down the line, my sudden burst of zeal and energy just dissipated. I could not bring myself to write a 500-word article on a given keyword within 3 hours. I shut down the laptop in frustration and that was the end of the story.

More discouraging, was the fact that I was riddled with fears and worries of losing on my coursework.Besides, my meager pocket money could not allow me to purchase the much-needed bundles for researching the article to be written. I would worry more about food than anything.

Towards the end of 2015, I met a good lawyer friend, who was running a personal blog hosted by Blogspot. All I knew about blogging was the name blog. On further discussion with let us call him Tony, I opened a free WordPress account on WordPress. As they say the rest history.

I am yet to make good money like the big boys and girls in blogging but I must say I feel proud of myself for coming this far. Furthermore, I have the surety in me that I will make it with persistence, time-framed goals and the right strategy in my blogging venture.

Writing in itself is not rocket science but can be an uphill task for a novice. On the contrary,  no one was born a writer and you can always learn on the job. Here are the basic qualities of a good writer:

  • You are an avid reader
  • You have memorable imagination
  • You pay attention to detail
  • You love writing and it is a passion in you
  • You have good grammar and punctuation skills
  • You have a knack for observing things and people

Towards the end of 2016, a year after leaving college, and after having gone around looking for a job for some time, I gave freelance writing a try again. While searching for online jobs, I bumped into a site called Upwork.

Upwork is a global freelancing platform that connects business clients with independent professionals who are commonly known as freelancers. These independent professionals include programmers, web developers, writers, virtual assistants among others.

Freelancing is considered more of a business than a job because you are not tied to one client for the rest of your freelancing career. You could be dealing with more than three clients or more at ago who will terminate your contract once your done working for them. A contract could be as short as few hours or as long as 6 months or more.

Initially, I gave Upwork a try in vain. My Upwork profile was rejected not twice and not thrice. I was getting frustrated and on the verge of giving up until  I met a mentor and trainer in Walter Akolo

Prior to meeting Walter, I made some silly decisions including blowing up $100 in online scams that promise riches within a short period of time. Most of these scams disguised themselves as network marketing platforms but were mere pyramid schemes that left you pocket dry and crying for your hard-earned money gone too soon.

After subscribing to Walter’s mailing list, I kept receiving steamy email posts from Walter on the ins and outs of online jobs. Needless to say, he awakened in me the burning desire and potential to make money online.

At that time, I was still running this blog and earning peanuts from wordAds.

After enrolling and getting trained online by one of the top freelance writers’ blog in Kenya and outside the country, I got registered on Upwork and other freelance writing platforms such as Fiverr.

Given that I was still a rookie freelancer, I landed my first client on Upwork within no short period of time but got conned of my hard earned $124.  This happened even after being warned of cons and scams online by Walter. Overexcitement can be your worst enemy in life.

Here are some good ways to know scammers:

  • Promise you heaven but deliver hell.

I was conned by a client with the identity Oxford Guys. They purported to be an Indian-Writing Service Provider and even send me work samples and writing guidelines including the Terms and Conditions template. They promised to pay me every end of the month and I should not worry about payment at all. Liars they were!!

  • Their payment method is not verified

Later on, when I checked their profile on Upwork, their payment was not verified and was as new to Upwork as July 2017.

  • Encourage New Writers to apply in a bid to con them

For those who have an experience with Upwork, you will note that their some considerate clients who are good and encourage new writers to apply. That is not to say new writers cannot land clients.

However, in my experience, this was one isolated case whereby the same cons came back with a different identity namely -Help me Write Some Articles and still encouraged new writers to apply.

Their job advert was later scrapped off  Upwork for not being in line with Upwork policies.

  • Hire you out of Upwork

Upwork has policies that ensure the connection between business clients and independent professionals is well protected. For any client to hire you, he or she must first deposit money on Upwork’s Escrow account and sent you an offer via Upwork.

Once you receive and review the offer you can choose to accept or decline the contract.

A client can only hire you out of Upwork if he or she is willing to pay you upfront or sends you a down payment before you begin working for them.

  • Their writing is wanting

Whenever they send you emails, you will notice poor grammar and broken English here and there in their communication.

Despite the regrettable experience at the hand of scammers, I dusted my sleeves, bade for more jobs and landed trustworthy clients. You may want to have a look at my Upwork profile here

You may be one determined soul out there wondering how that single mother never gets out of her home to go work yet pays all her bills. Well, I have just told you my freelance writing journey. It is never too late, whether in your 20’s or 50’s you can freelance from any part of the world.  Personally, I am still on a journey to be better than I am today.

Many have done and in fact, have better experiences and great stories to tell than me.

If you have any questions or would also like to share your experience you can let me know in the comments section below. Besides, you could also shoot me an email through my contact page.

I have also launched a freelance course for beginners at only $25. Click here to submit your payment and start right away.

Best regards!!!

Stress is a natural reaction our body has in situations which are not common in our life.  It can be as simple as watching a basketball match or more complexed like stress at work because you have too many tasks you have to do before the deadline.

The good – the basketball match stress is OK because it raises your adrenaline and it keeps you focused. The bad – is ok in small amounts, but in high amounts, it makes you nervous or even distracted. When the stress reaches elevated amounts you have to deal with it or it will decrease the quality of your life. You won’t be able to focus, you will be in a bad mood and you will fight with people around you.

So, how can you fight stress in your life? Easy. All you have to do is organize your day so that you can have an hour a day for you. In that hour you can go for a walk, read a book, watch a movie, hang out with your buddies over a small foosball table, go jogging, go to the gym, play video games, whatever you want. There is only one thing you have to keep in mind – you have to be relaxed after that hour. That hour is your time and you are first. You mustn’t talk about the problem, you mustn’t think about the problem. That hour will recharge your batteries and you will be ready for another day.

If you aren’t sure that this will work, I want you to take a look at the infographic below the article. That will explain to you what stress is all about and how you can manage it in the best way. Relax!

 

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Oh, God. You’ve been asked to do a presentation, and you can’t really say no (although that’s what you’re screaming in your head, isn’t it?) because your boss has already moved onto the next point on the agenda.

Fear of public speaking is incredibly common. In fact, experts estimate around 75% of all people get anxious when they’re asked to speak in front of others. Some particularly melodramatic studies have found that most people fear to speak in public more than they fear death. So, you’re not alone.

The problem is, avoiding that presentation could have some pretty disastrous effects on your life, career goals and other areas. You might stop being overlooked for that promotion if only you could get past the anxiety that’s stopping you from presenting like the professional we all know you are.

The best way to get over crippling fear, in my experience, is a little preparation.
Here’s some advice that might help next time you’re given the unenviable task of commanding your colleagues’ attention at your departmental pow-wow.

Developing the ‘X Factor’

All the world’s a stage – but how much presence you do have on it?

Stage presence is essentially your ability to get and keep your audience’s attention. Energy and charisma play a part, but you don’t have to loudly bounce around the stage in order to develop a presence. In fact, someone quiet and intense can be just as engaging.

It’s all about keeping an eye on your energy level. You’ll need to add a pinch more of the key ingredients – animation, enthusiasm and volume. It makes sense to warm up your voice and body before you start – so you can use them at a slightly higher level than you’re used to without getting tired.

Project your voice instead of shouting, and crank up your body language and animated movements (without becoming a cartoon). And, difficult though it seems, appearing relaxed and comfortable can make a world of difference. Breathe deeply and slowly, and smile.

Smiling is so important.

It’s All About Connections

Why is smiling important? It builds rapport, the relationship between you and your audience. A good rapport is vital for a successful presentation.

A few easy ways to build rapport before you’ve even started your presentation:
Do some groundwork. Social media is a fantastic way to interact with the people you’re going to present to – you can even ask them what they’d like to get out of your session so you can plan accordingly.

If you can, get into the room before your audience so you can greet them as they come in. If that proves to be a problem, and your audience is already waiting for you, show you’re pleased to be there by greeting them warmly. If it’s a small group, try to shake hands with everybody.

Humour is a good way to develop a relationship with your audience, but make sure it’s appropriate. Safe things to play with include the room, the weather or a current news story – it’s probably not the place to try out that cutting-edge stand-up routing you’ve been working on.

Eye contact is really important, too. You need to make sure you’re making it, regularly, with everyone in the room. Don’t focus on the most senior person, or your best friend – share the love. If you’re speaking to a big audience, you won’t be able to make direct eye contact with everyone; so just let your eyes sweep across the audience regularly. The fools won’t be able to tell the difference.

Finally, I can’t stress the importance of smiling when it comes to presenting. Everybody responds warmly to a smile, so if you want to get your audience onside quickly, flash those pearly whites. (Or smoky yellows. No judgment.)

Get a Feel

Reading a room is all about developing an awareness of the conditions of the room as well as the audience’s responsiveness and general mood.

When you lead a presentation, you’re in a position of power that allows you to take control of the room and get problems fixed. What’s the temperature like in there? If it’s too chilly, your audience’s mood might harden. If it’s too warm, you could find yourself talking to a room of nodding heads (the wrong, sleepy kind of nodding.) Keep an eye out for jackets being removed or people fanning themselves. Don’t be afraid to check in with the audience on whether they’re too cold or warm, it’s a great way to build rapport. Just don’t expect a consistent answer.

It goes beyond temperature, though. Lighting can also have a drastic effect on people’s attention. Flooding a room with light can help to wake people up, darkening it might help people see your slides better, at the cost of sending a few to sleep.

Pay attention to what time of day you’ll be presenting. The graveyard slot, after lunch, is where most people slump. Last thing in the afternoon is tricky too since people tend to switch off. First thing in the morning can be really tricky if you’re presenting to a room of zombies who haven’t quite processed their coffee yet. You can’t always present at the sweet spot, but knowing in advance that you’ll have an unfocused audience might help you prepare.

You have to be able to spot the moment when you’re losing people’s attention. If they start checking their emails or their eyes turn towards the window, you’ll need to do something to bring them back to you. You could ask a question (like your horrible geography teacher used to do), or run an exercise. Have some kind of interaction ready to refocus a drifting audience, and you’ll be fine.

This seems like a lot, I know. But you can afford to relax a little on this – most people are pretty good at spotting the mood of a room and responding to it, so don’t worry – you’re pretty likely to be aware of all of this anyway, without working too hard on it. Like anything else though, the more you practice, the easier it becomes!

Carpe Diem

A lot of presenters are really worried about goofing up their lines, stumbling over their words or saying something wrong. In order to counteract that, many people will write a script in advance of their presentation and memorize it.

This can help settle nerves, but it doesn’t always make a very good presentation. When you’re regurgitating a script, there’s a tendency for people to come across as a bit detached and distracted. You can spot it by the slightly sing-song tone as they recite the script in their head aloud.

Put it this way – if you’re focused on remembering your lines, how can you be focused on the audience?

The trick? Go into the presentation knowing what you want to say, but not the exact words you’re going to use. Your opening line or joke can be rehearsed or scripted, but don’t overdo it. You want to sound natural and off-the-cuff, but it takes years to learn to do that from a script – you’ll get instant results by building a skeleton of your points and then improvising around them.

Study the Experts 

There’s no shame in finding out how corporate speakers do it and trying out some of their techniques until you find one that works for you. Some speakers demand attention by leaping around the stage, mustering enthusiasm from their audience with sheer energy. Others prefer to stay still and speak quietly, to force the audience to be attentive without distracting from the point of the presentation.

It’s just a case of finding the style that works for you.

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End of the year holidays are here with us and Christmas is fast approaching sooner than you know it. To most learners in the first two stages of the popular 8.4.4 Education system in Kenya, school term is over.

You only need a 10-minute walk down the streets to see the yoyo boys and girls from school hanging out and counting every vehicle that passes by. Hahaha.

Interestingly, given the age limit that most pubs and local entertainment joints have, most students find themselves under 18 years of age and therefore restricted from raving. However, many will still find their way in.

Conversely, disco matanga has become the modern day entertainment sensation. This mostly happens when a neighbor or acquaintance in a given neighborhood losses a loved one.

According to most  African cultures, the dead are supposed to be given a befitting send-off and their last wishes respected. As is the norm, there is usually a mourning period decided by family members to the deceased and the funeral committee involved.

Such mourning periods come with a lot of visitors turning up to condole and mourn with the family of the deceased. In most instances, there is always music that is played to calm nerves and give solace to those undergoing the loss.

What beats logic nowadays is the fact that DJs have taken over the music systems in funerals and converted them into discos for both old and young to dance and drink freely without the fear of being victimised or apprehended by anybody whatsoever.

Yeah, you get what I am trying to say and this leads to my next line of thought.

Our kids, given the freedom and spirit of adventure they now possess, will no doubt find their way into such impromptu, makeshift discos. In such cases, correction becomes a vocabulary as everyone turns out to be a reveler that now has a third eye.

Incidences of immorality and our young girls getting unwanted pregnancies are likely to be palpable.

Disco Matangas asideI am not here to give any lecture on parenting but as a matter of fact, our children need to be engaged in constructive activities this holiday that will add more value to their lives.

One most valuable thing you can do to your boy or girl child student is to offer them tutorship or a private teacher who can teach them at home.

Sorry, maybe you expected me to mention a sporting event or tour in Malindi with your family.

You can think about that later but first things first.

In 2014, the then Education Cabinet Secretary Jacob Kaimenyi while attending a Unesco event at a Nairobi hotel dubbed Education for all, decried the poor pupil (student) ratio in Kenyan schools.

“The pupil-teacher ratio is one measure of assessing progress towards education for all. Due to financial constraints, we have not been able to meet the international standard. In many schools the ratio is above 42:1, with as high as 85:1” Kaimenyi was quoted.
Read more at https://www.standardmedia.co.ke/article/2000111214/pupil-teacher-ratio-now-more-worrying-says-education-cs-jacob-kaimenyi  

This upsurge of students in our learning institutions was brought about by free primary education initiative initiated by the Kibaki administration.

Thanks to the regime, many parents got the privilege of educating their sons and daughters for free throughout their primary education.

However, the unhealthy trend of a poor pupil-teacher ratio is bound to be the same or worse if a politician’s promise of a free secondary education is anything to go by.

10 years ago, while still a student in high school, our class teacher handled a class that comprised of 60+ students. My uncle who also happened to be a student in the same institution 5 years prior says their class comprised of 35 students only.

Flash-forward your daughter who is in Form 1 right now as a K.C.S.E candidate in 2020. With a possibility of a free secondary education her way she might just be in a classroom with 99 other students.

You tell me how one teacher with red blood cells flowing through his or her veins is going to pay attention to one student. Before we even ask for more, the scripts to mark are already overwhelming.

And it is not like the Teachers Service Commission is planning on a massive teachers recruitment anytime soon.

It is for this simple reason that as a parent, you would rather chop off part of your festive budget to guarantee your student child a thorough home alone understanding of the subjects and coursework already covered in school.

More so, the tutor will be resourceful in preparing your kid for the next coursework coverage when the new school term begins.

That said, it is also important to note that people are empowered differently. Some parents, have the resources to educate their kids in the best of private schools in Kenya and abroad. In that case, the worrying trend of the pupil-teacher ratio in public and some private schools does not arise to them.

On the contrary, the majority of parents have been great beneficiaries of the Free Primary Education and would definitely welcome the idea of a Free Secondary Education too.

Though cash draining, putting aside that cash to hire a tutor for your school going kid could just work magic to his or her performance when the next school term begins.

I’m done. Maybe I should revisit the idea of a family camp or sporting event in someplace yonder but that is a topic for another day.

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Thanks for stopping by.

 

 

 

How to be a Good Public Speaker

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Back in college, I remember how we used to freak out at the mere mention of a presentation. This is the time when excuses could be created from the heavens left, right and center about this and that. From having a sore throat to nursing a sick child, many would rather skive such occasions.

Interestingly, some would prefer to stand on stage during a group presentation than going solo. You would suggest a presentation to him or her only to be met with dazed eyes like a bullock being led to the slaughter. Public speaking is the art of sharing your message with a large audience. Just like anything, it is an art that can be learned and mastered by anybody. So who is a good public speaker? Moreover, how can you become one?

Personally, I have spoken before thousands of people, both old and young. Whether it was for five minutes or twenty, I must say the experience was great at the same time encouraging. You may also be wondering, “What is the point or essence of being a good public speaker?” Well, wait until you are called upon to give a speech or a vote of thanks at your brother’s graduation ceremony. Not many of us think about public speaking until when the rare moment splashes you out of your slumber. This is the time when, anxiety, fear and uneasiness sets in and chokes your voice and confidence reducing you to a paper tiger.

To be a good public speaker does not call for any mathematics or rocket science but a deep interest and passion to be counted among the great public speakers of this world. Read on to learn more about successful tips that will make you a good public speaker.

Tip #1: Speak With Your Natural Voice

How do you speak during a normal conversation with your friend? What is the tone of your message or voice? Being a good public speaker demands that you speak with your true voice rather than put on a different voice on stage, which may actually serve to make you sound fake or trying too hard. It is advisable to use a conversational tone as this makes you sound more natural and the real you.

Besides, the most important aspect of public speaking is to pass your message across. No point of dragging yourself to fit in the allotted time for public speaking let us say in one hour or so. In fact, research suggests that adults can only sustain attention for not more than 20 minutes. Therefore learn to be precise and to the point as much as possible. Use “aahhs“ for breaks or pauses to take breath. Conversely, avoid using ‘aahhs” too much as they will turn out to be too monotonous reducing the flair in your speech.

Tip #2: Research

You do not want to share information that you do not know with a large group of people. To be a good public speaker a thorough research on the subject to speak about is necessary. This is more important considering the fact that some people in your audience could be more intelligent or knowledgeable than you. After doing research on the given topic, it is also important that you put your speech down in point form.

 Our brains have a tendency to give us the false impression that we shall remember everything on stage but owe unto you. Expert speakers have a knack for doing it naturally without needing any notebook. However, a human is to err and you do not want to take any chances when you have been called upon to give a presentation or a simple speech to your target audience.

Tip #3: Cope With Your Nerves

A good public speaker has learned the art of taming his or her bad emotions. Occasionally, public speakers have to fight terrible feelings and thoughts before going to stage. This usually culminates into stage fright that makes anybody who wants to try to chicken out. One of the common feelings people experience before going to the stage is nervousness. Nervousness can be as bad as making you forget the key points you were to mention in your speech.

Nevertheless, the most important point to note here is that you should stop focusing too much on yourself and focus on the crowd before you. Shift your mind from your own self to that person in the audience who is in dire need of the information you need to pass across. Alternatively, you could take a deep breath as this will help calm your nerves by slowing down your heart rate and put you in a better position to give your speech.

Tip #4: Watch Your Body Language

Our bodies are always communicating even before we utter any single word. As a good public speaker, you want to ensure that your body language is in harmony with the words that come out of your mouth. For example, talking to your audience while not maintaining eye contact could be a clear sign of nervousness.

Your body could also portray a lack of self-confidence by not standing upright, crossing your arms or fidgeting. Still, nervousness could make you use inappropriate gestures that do not rhyme with your words.

Become a good public speaker by mastering your body language. Make maximum use of space on the podium by moving around. Engage your audience with the use of natural gestures and try to maintain eye contact as much as possible. If maintaining eye contact is much of problem to you, overcome it by focusing your eyes on your audience heads or on their nose bridges.

Tip #5: Care Not About the Mistakes You Will Make on Stage

Who doesn’t want to do it like Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.? Or Winston Churchill? Despite a good public speaker having a way with words, they are human and chances are that they have erred not once or twice in their public speaking career.

You may have rehearsed severally and perfected on the speech to deliver just before going on stage, however, in the process of your speech delivery you just find out that you read the wrong name or skipped a paragraph.

Interestingly, not even your audience will notice the minor mistakes except you. Apologizing or retracting could just make it worse for you simply because in the first place the audience may not have noticed you making the mistake. On the other hand, if they happen to notice your mistake, they will appreciate the fact that you are human and you can make mistakes too. As a good public speaker, the most advisable thing to do after making a mistake is to continue with your speech delivery.

Tip #6: Make Your Speech Personal

Telling a story at the beginning of your speech or simply relating a personal experience could create a profound response from your audience. This is because people will relate more to real life experiences such as an ordeal, triumph or a harrowing experience.

Actually, people tend to pay more attention to real life stories than just listening to theoretical jargon. Besides, telling a story will make it easier for you to deliver your speech simply because no one else knows the story better than you do. This will serve to make you at ease thus enabling you to flow through your speech. Telling a story is one great art mastered by a good public speaker.

Tip #7: Practice, Practice and Practice

Practice works to build your confidence on stage. For example, you could practice public speaking by rehearsing while recording your voice. Later you can listen to yourself speak and be able to know your tone, pronunciations and adjust accordingly. Besides, practicing your speech will help you connect well with your target audience. Connecting with your audience means knowing them first. Are they experts or novices in the particular subject? If the experts, it means you need to put more energy into presenting or delivering something top-notch.

Practice makes perfect. This means that public speaking will become part of you eventually flowing out of you naturally like the big boys and girls do it. A good public speaker does not just speak but aims to connect with his or her audience as much as possible.

As far as I am concerned, a good public speaker does not fall down from heaven but rather they come from amongst us. That good public speaker could just be you and me apparently because public speaking is a skill that is learned over time with much practice. A quote from Paul Arden could just be the antidote you need right now to save face from your constant stage frights and excuses about good public speaking. “Too many people spend too much time trying to perfect something before they actually do it. Instead of waiting for perfection, run with what you go, and fix it along the way…”

 

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I do not know much about you but I can say it without a doubt or fear of contradiction that you are always thinking about money. It is even worse when you are asked to part with $30 for a wedding committee; money that took you sweat and almost blood to get. Alternatively, you will want to run to your creditors, who are the only friends you have when you need them most but become bullies the moment you renege on your end of the bargain.

How about a marriage on the verge of a breakup, because of the man, the breadwinner lost his job and his spouse wants to hear none of it.

The world over, people are grappling with the issues of poverty and yearn for riches. Historians have always painted Africa as a dark continent with all the problems in the world. However, the same issues in Africa are the same issues in Asia, Europe, South America and other continents of the world. Every country has their own class of the rich and poor.

Therefore, it is good for once, to deconstruct the subject of wealth and try to find out what are the successful habits of the wealthy that the poor majority have no idea about or simply know but would like a wake up call from their life slumber.

  1. They are not Expecting Lottery Money from Somewhere Whatsoever

While the betting and lottery companies are making quick money on betting diehards the wealthy take pride in putting their money into profitable investment vehicles such as hedge funds, stocks and bonds. In this case, both the gambler and the wealthy individual are taking risks but the difference is one is gambling while the other is investing. Five years down the line, one is choking with debts while the other owns properties out of his home country. Guess whom between the two.

  1. They Exercise

In an interview with FourHourBodyPress , Richard Branson, Virgin Atlantic Airways billionaire said, “I definitely can achieve twice as much by keeping it fit,” This according to him keeps the brain functioning well. Unfortunately, for the lazy majority, exercising to them is like another punishment from the pits of hell.

Many of the successful wealthy are known to maintain a consistent fitness routine that includes morning runs, visiting the gym, stretching and swimming among other exercises. Despite their busy schedules that involve a flurry of meetings, reading emails and inspecting projects they will always create time to exercise. On the contrary, most idlers hardly think about exercising but would rather sleep or daydream all day long.

  1. They Control their Emotions

As the old adage goes, -Think before you leap, the wealthy listen before they speak. Furthermore, they do not speak everything they think about. This is among the common successful habits of the wealthy. While the masses may complain about bad weather, poor roads, a bad economy and almost about everything the wealthy know how to keep their mouths shut. According to Megan Totka, author at Small Business Trends “Loose lips are a habit for 69% of those who struggle financially”. Conversely, 94% of the wealthy speak when they are rational, sober and calm.

  1. They Network

You have heard the saying, ‘Your network is your net worth” Well, it is the hard truth for you, unfortunately. The wealthy just know how to do that. Rather than spend all of their time talking about the match between Chelsea and AC Roma or trending political topics the wealthy will also talk about their business interests with an acquaintance while seeking for new opportunities that may come to the front. This will most likely end with them exchanging contacts and setting up appointments later. Use social events as an opportunity to network instead of wasting it on empty gossip about your neighbor next door filing for a divorce.

  1. They Wake Up Early

Waking up early is one of the old age successful habits of the wealthy. They understand that for them to hit deadlines and outdo long hour meetings, they have to put their lives in order with proper time management and that means waking up early. Waking up early before the sun rises helps you to take control over your day and do one or two things before the daily normal routine sets in and you have to join the rat race.

  1. They Set Aside Self-Limiting Beliefs that Hold them Back

What are your self-limiting beliefs? Do you believe that your lack of education denies you riches or is it your lack of motivation and enthusiasm? Whatever your self-limiting beliefs maybe the wealthy have learned to conquer theirs.

Napoleon Hill, in one of his best sellers, Think and Grow Rich says that you do not attract positive things into your life by thinking about their opposites. This is certainly true as negative thinking leads to negative feelings, attitudes and negative behavior. Get out of your self-limiting beliefs by having daily positive affirmations about your life. There is great power in listening to yourself uttering such positive words about your life.

  1. They Live Within Their Means

Successful habits of the wealthy involve living within their means. They have learned over time with a lot of self-discipline on how to master their money.  By the wealthy mastering their money, it means that they pay themselves first and avoid overspending the remaining amount. For example, a wealthy individual will save 10 or 20% of his net income and live on 80% of his or her income.

Regrettably, many of us have failed to be disciplined enough to control our impulses. In a bid to compete with your highflying neighbor you cleared your bank account to buy the latest BMW to satisfy your ego or prove your worth. Sadly, for you, this takes you several steps back from exercising power and authority over your money. In essence, your money is actually pulling the strings for you.

  1. They Spread their Beds

Randall Bell, a socio-economist spent years studying and analyzing unique characteristics that define successful individuals. Bell concluded that whatever you do on a daily basis matters. Simple routine tasks such as spreading your bed in the morning could just make the difference between a highly successful individual and a loser. Bell says, “Those who do their chores and make their living space tidier tend to make more money”. Bell argues that spreading your bed in the morning puts you into a high performing mindset.

Another author by the name Charles Duhigg also backs up Bell’s findings. Duhigg in his bestseller “The Power of Habit” says that making your bed every day in the morning correlates with better productivity, a greater sense of well-being and puts you in a better position to stick with a budget.

So, do you make your bed every morning? Sounds funny right? However, it could just make the difference in helping you to get what you have been longing for in life.

  1. They Rarely Watch TV but Study

According to a study by Thomas Corley, author of “Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals, many high net worth individuals hardly watch TV. In fact, only 67% of them watch television utmost 1 hour in a day.

Rather than spent a large share of their day glued to a screen, a wealthy individual will keep himself busy with books. According to Corley findings, 88% of wealthy individuals read self-improvement topics for at least 30 minutes in a day.

Bill Gates, the world richest man according to Forbes  Magazine loves to read books and is said to read at least 50 books in a year.

  1. They Set Goals and not Wishes

I bet you have many wishes right now. One of them could be to travel overseas may be to the UK or the United States of America. How about goals? Do you have any?

One of the successful habits of the wealthy individuals is to set goals unlike many who have mere wishful thinking. They set goals not just in their minds but put them down in writing. This is the first step of turning their thoughts into what is physical.

According to John Rampton, an entrepreneur and connector, “95% of the successful achievers I have interviewed practice writing down their goals, plans or visions for success on a regular basis.”

They do this most preferably at night before the next day.

Cultivate the habit of setting goals and following them through to completion.

Adapt to the successful habits of the wealthy to change your mindset, routine and kick poverty out of your life. Habits form part our second nature and it is good to learn from those who have gone ahead of us and mastered the art of making money. No pain no gain. Carol Burnett talks about change and says, “Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” Strive to change your life now by adapting to the above given successful habits of the wealthy for a better financial future.

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“Just stop it!” she ranted ” What you are doing to me is not right at all?”

This were the complaints of Mrs. Akombi after her husband arrived home at 3a.m in the company of two expensive call girls from a pub in town.

“Why do you even care? You fool!” Mr. Akombi barked.

This was an affluent couple that everyone in the neighborhood talked about. From a fleet of vehicles to high-end properties in town, nothing could hide their immense wealth.

On the contrary, their marriage was on the rocks.

Ivan, their firstborn son, was studying Mechanical Engineering at Pennsylvania State University. Their daughter, the last child in the home was studying medicine at a Russian university in Moscow.

Despite their shambolic marriage, the Akombis had everything you could desire in life.

Money to them was not a problem. What with the frequent flights to Zanzibar over the weekends.

So, here is a couple that everyone wants to be like but unfortunately to many people, that is not just how life works.

Have you ever wondered why the shortest or tiny people have the loudest voices? I stopped wondering the moment I realized nature has a way of striking a perfect balance amongst the living.

No wonder camels are meant for a drought, scarce environment, unlike buffaloes that will start collapsing in a couple of weeks in the same environment.

Below are six amazing ways you can employ to learn how to appreciate and value yourself in life. Read on.

  1. Learn to See the Good in You

You are hurting yourself very badly by only seeing the good in other people. The fact of the matter is that you are only seeing the good in other people because that is what they have allowed you to see but they will not tell you about their broken relationships, bad habits, chronic diseases, physically disabled relatives.

Therefore, in actual sense, you are doing yourself a great disservice by not appreciating the good in you and only seeing the good in other people.

2. Count Your Blessings

It is unfortunate that most of us just do not know how to count our blessings.

We have the skewed mentality that blessings are only the mega lifestyles we see around us. Nothing could be further from the truth.  The posh car, bungalow, or career accomplishments could be someone else’s blessings but not everyone can count them as blessings by the fact that everyone is on a different path in life. You understand what I mean. Right?

By you learning to acknowledge the little things you have in life you set yourself up for bigger things in future. It means that even when the fat cheques start coming in you will still be content even when your neighbor on the south is building a three-storied bungalow that is already dwarfing your mansion.

You will still be able to count your friends, lovely family, health and peace when all you have is gone in the face of adversity.

3. See the Problems in Other People

I have not told you to stalk, pry or dig up on someone’s life like paparazzi. I find it interesting when you can only see the problems in you and only the good in others. How about seeing their problem too. Well, this is not to say that your problems will soon be gone but it will make you realize that life is not a destination but a journey and whatever challenges you are going through right now; be it financial, social, health wise someone already went through the harrowing experiences before.

To crown it, the discovery that he or she overcame the challenge will pump into you the energy to soldier on regardless of the pain or affliction.

4. Stop Taking Life Too Serious

“I must be rich by 25,” Jack chirped. Well, but what if by 25 Jack is not even a toe and shoulder close to riches? Is he going to kill himself?

The important thing to put in mind here is that plans may change because of other factors beyond our control like let us say a chronically ill loved one consuming high hospital bills, but the goal does not change only the period. Yes, maybe Jack’s goal was a SMART goal but who said other factors might not come in that may affect the specific time set.

In any given challenge, endeavor or task, despite the failure appreciate the fact that you tried and though you failed, you are in a better position to do better than the one who has never undergone the challenge before.

5. Find Joy in Voluntary Service

I am made to understand that one of the great habits in successful people is their penchant to offer themselves freely in terms of humble service, charity, philanthropy and so forth. In spite of their busy schedule, they will set aside time to give themselves out. I am not saying you should be rich to volunteer.

Start right now. Visit your church maybe over the weekend and help with cleaning or weeding flower gardens. Do shopping for a sickly, old neighbor who happens to be a widow too. It is said that some have given their way to riches. Take part in across the country race to raise money for the hunger-stricken. Fix that tire burst for the woman driver you found stranded in town.

Volunteering will give you the confidence and attitude of a problem solver, such that you will not be viewing life from a problematic perspective but you will be solution oriented. Rather, you will handle life like one handling a knife by the handle and not the blade.

6. Do Something Extraordinary for Yourself

A preacher ministering to his congregation told them, “Some of you are too uptight and always sad with your lives that you find it weird when you catch yourself smiling.” Hahah, “in fact, when you catch yourself smiling you cut yourself short and ask did I just smile?”

It is funny or rather pathetic that to some of us, life has been too hard that we find smiling to be like an abomination. Sorry if that is how far this life has brought you. It is a journey so do not despair yet. You will remember this when you reach the peak of it.

I hope you are not one of them. I used to wonder why the poor or rather the have-nots look jovial, can afford a 9pm to 7am sleep and are so confident of themselves. On the contrary, a millionaire in town is hardly sleeping, always chasing bigger goals than the previous, pensive most of the time and always flaring up at his/her employees

Is that really what a happy, appreciated and fulfilled life should be lived like?

Of course not.

You need to start appreciating your very sense of being alive and well by doing something extraordinary for yourself. This could be traveling to your dream destination, go camping or hiking with a buddy, treat yourself to a sumptuous meal in a fancy restaurant in town, visit interesting places such as the Maasai Mara.

If you have ever longed for a happy and fulfilling life start it from here at no cost at all. You just need a paradigm shift in your mindset, willingness to embrace change and a determination to appreciate life and hooray! You will be on your way to the most jovial person people have ever known.

Just like you or someone else, out there I never knew about the Spoken Word til I met a rising talent in Lee. Of course, you cannot know every damn thing in this world. Henry Ford, founder of the Ford Motor Company and industrialist even in death, is best remembered for revolutionizing the Motor vehicle industry in America.

Despite all credit going to him, historical sources indicate that some of his inventions like the Ford Assembly belts were a concept built and developed by some of his employees.

Sorry, I am not here to talk about Henry Ford but Lee Mchanaji’s artistic prowess through the spoken word.

You need to first understand that the spoken word is an oral art that is written but performed before an audience. In other words, it is poetry intended for an onstage rendition rather than a page set up.

To Lee, there is no other passion or vigor that I know about him other than the Spoken Word.

Listening to this Spoken word video by Lee has not only arisen my deepest and core emotions for my country Kenya but has bonded me more to her. He has made me realize my role as a youth in moving Kenya, my country, forward. That as a youth in this great nation of Kenya, I will not allow myself to be used for selfish gains by a political leader whether he is ethnically related to me or a brother from another mother.

Lee highlights Kenya as a man eat man society, where politicians only use power as a tool to rip, exploit, divide and rule the masses. Indeed, we have a president in the name of Uhuru, whose name actually serves to remind us of the freedom that the founding fathers of the Kenyan nation fought for.

Unfortunately, for us, black colonial masters took over the white. You need to look at tribalism that has cut asunder the national fabric of unity and cohesion in our great nation. Let me not talk about Post Election Violence just yet.

What about the inequitable distribution of resources and historical land injustices mentioned by the TJRC report?  A report facilitated by Kibaki’s administration only to be buried under the current regime.

Lee explains it better.

You can also watch the video right here and see it for yourself.

Kenyans want change!

Kenyans want a better future for their kids including you and me.

The time is ripe people!

Whatever your capacity or area of jurisdiction discover the leader in you and be that agent of change.

Change for yourself! Change for your kids! Change for your country!

REST IN PEACE TRIBALISM. REST IN PEACE PEV VICTIMS.

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BIG UP LEE MCHANAJI.

To be continued……